Sometimes we don’t have the words to describe exactly what wrong with us…all we know is that we feel completely exhausted by all of it. We’re having trouble keeping up with our lives, we feel like we keep repeating the same mistakes, we feel like we keep letting people down…we aren’t showing up the way we want to show up and we feel it in our bones...

Keywords: mental fog, indecisiveness, avoidance, procrastination, fatigue, nervousness, social isolation, racing thoughts, loneliness, lack of motivation, loss of interest, sadness, anger, irritation, low self-esteem, self-sabotage, etc.

Navigating late diagnosis ADHD & Autism can be incredibly confusing. With so much information out there, it can be hard to know where to start. Where are the best places to find information? How do you know if you actually have ADHD or Autism? How necessary is it to get a diagnosis? How do you start to comb through and digest all the information you have found so that you can start to address your needs? How do you get used to this new identity and the complicated feelings that might also be coming up for you?

Keywords: information, resources, confusion, grief, identity, productivity, unmasking, disability, attuning to your needs, emotional regulation, procrastination, sensory needs, interpersonal relationships, rejection sensitivity, time blindness, routines, self-acceptance, support

One of the deepest pains we can feel as human beings is being forced to hide all or part of ourselves out of fear of rejection or worse. The loneliness that accompanies the experience of not being able to be truly seen and heard by our families, friends, loved ones — or general society — can feel insurmountable. In grappling with our identities we may feel “othered” and tired of the code-switching to we’ve been doing simply to survive.

Keywords: identity, belonging, ancestry, heritage, otherness, soul searching, life transitions, self-actualization, claiming your identity, hidden identities, double-life, spirituality, confusion, mixed-ethnicity, first generation, second generation, immigrant, refugee, balancing different cultures, dual-culture, multi-culture, self-esteem, self-worth, feelings of worthlessness, fear of exclusion, fear of being disowned, guilt, fear, loneliness, isolation, shame, guilt, grief, loss, gender, sexuality, colourism, spirituality

As racialized folx and/or children of immigrants, there can be many sources of tension between ourselves and our parents. Even if we’re all fluent in the same language, it can often feel impossible to understand each other. We may feel pressure to be a certain way out of duty, honour and respect to our parents, but simultaneously feel like we are betraying ourselves. We may feel like our parents do not listen or respect our voices. Or, we may not be able to separate our identities from our parents’ expectations. How do we go about setting boundaries with our parents in the context of our cultures and our communities?

Keywords: generational trauma, intergenerational conflict, strained relationships, communication, boundaries, silencing, silent treatment, gaslighting, codependence, control, distrust, trust issues, confusion, anger, grief, loss, resentment, first generation, second generation, immigrant, refugee, self-esteem, identity, expectations, respect, duty, independence

Whether romantic or platonic, sometimes we hit a wall in trying to navigate our relationships. Aren’t these supposed to be fun and fulfilling? Dating sucks, being with our partners is hard, and our support systems don’t seem to be functioning the way they’re supposed to. Is it something we’re doing or is this just the way it is?

Keywords: love, dating, romantic relationships, friendships, loneliness, hopelessness, dating fatigue, boundaries, communication, interracial relationships, cultural meshing/merging, romantic breakups, friendship breakups, betrayal, grief, loss, self-sabotage, codependence, conflict resolution, feeling taken advantage of, enabling, fear of intimacy, avoidance, fear of commitment, trust, jealousy

As members of marginalized or oppressed groups, waking up to the neoliberal, racist and anti-lgbtq+ systems that are intricately woven into our society can be an abrupt and destabilizing shock to our system. It is perfectly normal to not only feel a sense of injustice, but to also feel duped, confused, and unsafe in your skin, your community, and in our world as it is.

Keywords: fear, distrust, confusion, existential dread, anxiety, sadness, anger, injustice, racism, white supremacy, hegemony, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, islamophobia, climate change, colonialism, capitalism, patriarchy, first generation, second generation, immigrant, refugee, confusion, injustice, lack of safety, etc.